Donor

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Permalink Reply by CatAnne on January 14, 2010 at 12:25am

I'm not trying to sound upset, but I am a little bit about your statement. Yes, that donor may have made some mistakes, but that doesn't mean that they where not a good person. They saddly died, and we don't know why, but they where an organ donor. A transplant team will not give you an organ if they believe it will intentionally harm you.

My donor, before I was going into surgery, I was told had been exposed to Hep B. I freaked out, I was like what?!? You're going to give me a Panc with Hep B? Well there wasn't anything wrong with that Panc, I later found out it's just in the Liver, and this past week as I'm in school to be a nurse I found out that "exposed" could be that he got Hep B before he was vaccinated for it.

My pancreas failed, but I still love my donor and his family. They haven't responded to me letter, and they may not, but I still love them. That was my 2nd call.... My first call was on Jan 19th 2008, and yes I know all the dates for every event of my transplant. I was "backup" and they called at 12pm, I had to wait around all day, and night till 8 am when they told me that I wasn't getting it. (I didn't get my other tx until April 10th 2008.) I was like why did they have me wait soo long?!? My aunt who is a RN told me that the patient may have been on life support. They wait for the family to say good bye, but they know that they're a donor so they prepare.

Since my aunt was an RN at the hospital I was considered a "gem" So a lot of the time I was treated differently, and everyone on ICU wanted to meet me, even though I felt like crap. It was kinda annoying, but a lot of them are my friends now. I found out wayyy tooo much that I should have known. I saw a family outside the room next door saying goodbye to their loved one because they died. They where an organ donor, and the look on their faces broke my heart. I started crying like a baby. I wont go into details about the donor for respect, but I did find out his cause of death, and it was very sad. He was on life support, but the family wanted to say goodbye.

In April I was admitted for rejection. April is organ donor month, well my mom wanted me to do downstairs to the lobby, she said she had a surprise, I hated it. They where having a meeting, and I think a buffet for all the donor families. There where a lot of pictures, quilts, art. I don't thnk my mom intended for me to see the families, but I was looking at the photos and my heart broke again. Than it became even worse because I saw all the families, and I started to cry like a baby and I was having a breakdown, so we left. (It wasn't easy going all over the hospital with my IV pole and Cath.)

Don't disrespect anyone for being a donor/a donor family.

My Pancreas was my baby, seriously he was soo important to me. I would have named him, but I still don't know the name of my donor. They said that they wanted to surgically remove my Panc after it failed. They wanted to take it to Pathology, and I was upset. I didn't want it out of my body, He was my pancreas and I love him just like the donor. They ended up not doing the surgery and he's turning to scar tissue, but I love my pancreas.

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Permalink Reply by Lisa on January 16, 2010 at 3:00pm

Sorry CatAnne what I said upset you. I just asked the question to see if anyone had this to happen. You did what was best for you and I am doing what I feel is best for me. You know nothing about my medical history or my morals. Somebody else was able to receive the kidney and pancreas.

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Permalink Reply by Allison B on January 17, 2010 at 9:25pm

No, I didn't have that happen to me. Perhaps the good news is that you must be close to getting the organs that are right for you.

.My friend did take one from a person who had accidentally overdosed on prescription drugs that he was addicted to. She was a little hesitant about it, but I think she's doing alright. She has some other problems (not from the transplant) and just generally has never been too healthy. She had major medical problems before the transplant which were not connected to her diabetes.

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Permalink Reply by LISA WILSON KNIGHT on February 15, 2010 at 5:52am

Hi Lisa,

I too got a call similar to yours. The donor was a drug user. The way I had it figured is they would not offer me the organ and spend all of their time and money placing a bad organ for another bad organ. Just me. I asked my team about it rmultiple times before my transplant and they assured me they felt all would be fine. The donor organ was also 8 years younger than I am so that was a plus. I have had no problems with my new organ. As far as any headaches that you would incur as you know that all depends on your body. Personally I have had no bad experiences. Good luck!

Lisa

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